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Aug. 12th, 2003 01:42 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
person4I've recently realised that I have a tendency to have people sleep together in fics. Not sleep together as in have sex, but sleep together before their relationship actually starts/before they realise they have feelings for each other. Looking back through old notebooks I've realised I've been doing this for years, even though I somehow never noticed it before.
After thinking about it it's not that hard to understand. The sound of someone else in my room; whether they're coming into it, shifting in their sleep, or just breathing to loudly; is a sure way to wake me immediately from a sound sleep into a blind panic. Being able to sleep quietly with someone else in the room with me is pretty much the ultimate expression of trust I can show a person.
So, I guess it makes sense that this little personal foible would work it's way into characters I'm writing. My brain considers being able to sleep in another's presence to be a greater intimacy then sex in it's way, so it considers it a great way to show that two characters are really starting to fumble their way towards a relationship.
After thinking about it it's not that hard to understand. The sound of someone else in my room; whether they're coming into it, shifting in their sleep, or just breathing to loudly; is a sure way to wake me immediately from a sound sleep into a blind panic. Being able to sleep quietly with someone else in the room with me is pretty much the ultimate expression of trust I can show a person.
So, I guess it makes sense that this little personal foible would work it's way into characters I'm writing. My brain considers being able to sleep in another's presence to be a greater intimacy then sex in it's way, so it considers it a great way to show that two characters are really starting to fumble their way towards a relationship.
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Date: 2003-08-12 06:10 am (UTC)I can see that. I know I find it hard to sleep when someone else is sleeping in a room too...although I think with me it's slightly different, because rather than trust, there's an irritation with every little movement. So it would be a good thing in a relationship from my point of view if I could fall asleep and not be annoyed by their breathing.
Sex is a strange thing too. I mean, the way a lot of people treat it, it's not so much a show of intimacy any more. It's done for kicks rather than to show someone that you're throughly comfortable around them. Course, I'm not saying that everyone is like that, but there does seem to be a shift in attitude towards sex that makes it less of a big deal. Maybe the more simple things like being able to sleep in the same room as your SO, are a better clue to how a relationship is developing, because they're just that - little things. And it's when you're able to do all the little things that you normally do with that someone around without feeling threatened or self conscious that make a relationship more intimate rather than sex.
I guess it's all to do with being yourself, I think. And I've gone off at a huge tangent here haven't I? ^-^;;